Monday, February 25, 2008
Anyway, I had all these great plans for my birthday. I decided I was going to party like it was 1999,that means I was 28 years old then and could probably still handle a wild and crazy night. I had high hopes. My night started out at an amazing restaurant, we called ahead and I think we actually got seated around 9pm, that's okay, we didn't want to get started too early, right. I mean no one even goes out now until 11 or 12pm . We had a great meal and conversation, I think we left at 1130pm. Still wanting to prove that I still had it(again, not sure what "it" even is and I probably don't want "it" anyway) and hold on to a few more moments of my birthday celebration, we headed over to a pub we like, where we always run into a few familiar faces. We are still going strong here! Yes, we can do this. Get to our place order one drink. More great conversation, actually a lot of great conversation. It took about an hour to drink this thing and realize that it is now 1am! Yes, we are really partying now, I don't think I have stayed up this late since I was nursing Nolan and he was the one drinking! Oh no, here it comes, I Start to yawn, now once this happens you know it is going to be hard to control, No "stop it" I tell myself too late it has already begun. I look around, I start to realize this music is way too loud and the thumpity, thumpity is annoying , I search the place for familiar faces,I notice there are kids in here that I think I knew their parents in high school, I even found my self wondering ,how did her mom let her out of the house wearing that?!
Do not get me wrong, we had a great time, probably one of the best times I've had since turning 37, however, there was no table top dancing, no tequila shots, no bar fights, no staying out until 4am and running to Denny's for breakfast- It was SOOOO much better!!!:) It wasn't 1999 or 1989 for that matter- (Thank God!) where in the morning my head would be splitting, and I wanted to sleep until 3pm, and start to feel embarrassed by the fool I had made of myself!! I guess those days are gone, that ship had sailed(and I hope sunk). I no longer can party til the cows come home, but who really wants to anyway? Well, we made it to dinner and one pub,(woo whoo) so much for my carousing the downtown night life scene, instead we had great fun , a time with good friends, good food, and good conversation-I woke up in the morning ready to take on the day, with memories of the night before (yes, I remembered). I was so happy then, extremely happy that I am 37, I have come a long way since 1999, I am a whole person, with a great family, great friends and I still know how to have a great time, actually an even better time -I definitely want to go out again, no I don't want to re-live my 1999 days, I never want to go back there. I just want to continue to enjoy my life, making new memories, and always remembering, no matter what age I am, to dance! Wow-its going to be a great year!
Yes it is true, ask anyone who knows me and they will tell you that I am utterly in love,and addicted to coffee,but not just any coffee it must be DUNKIN DONUTS coffee. I have tried starbucks and Seattle's Best, but I can not and will not cheat on D.D. Nothing compares to the creamy smooth sweet taste of my D.D.,the rich aroma it gives off under my nose,the sweet taste as the first sip touches my lips, knowing that every cup, will and does taste the same over and over. I have tried being a "tea" drinker, this does nothing for me, sorry tea drinkers that is just boring. I drink DD in the morning(first thing), I drink it in the afternoon(post lunch) I will even drink it before bed(when kids are asleep)! With the help of some friends I now mix DD regular and Decaf after the 2pm hour. Thanks friends.
It was not something I became addicted to over night. At first it was innocent, a cup here, a cup there, during moms day out social hour, you know I thought I could control it, I will stop when I want to, I could stop if I want to ,just one more, and then before you know it I was a full fledged daily coffee drinker that can't ,won't and for my husbands sanity(and my own)should not stop!!Recently, I have found another thing that makes me love Costco, they now sell 2&1/2 pounder bags of you guessed it, DD coffee-Glory,praise God!!! My life just got better:) So now that I have admitted it and I no longer have to hide it-On my honor I will try... nah, who am I kidding?, I am going to make me another pot right now, curl up on my couch with my book(I am reading Peony in Love by Lisa See,for anyone interested)and for a few moments let my DD cure all, take me away to that one special place that all coffee lovers go to, for those few moments that last one cup at a time!!
A Serious side note:
Please if you have an addiction to drugs or alcohol, take it very serious, and get help. It destroys lives and relationships. I do not take lightly that there are truely real addictions out there and I take them very serious. Bless you all!!
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Friday, February 22, 2008
1) We got off the Titanic first.
2) We can scare male bosses with the mysterious gynaecological disorder excuses.
3) Taxis stop for us.
4) We don't look like a frog in a blender when dancing.
5) No fashion faux pas we make could ever rival the Speedo.
6) We don't have to pass wind to amuse ourselves.
7) If we forget to shave, no one has to know.
8) We can congratulate our teammate without ever touching her rear end.
9) We don't have to reach down every so often to make sure our privates are still there.
10) We have the ability to dress ourselves.
11) We can talk to the opposite sex without having to picture them naked.
12) If we marry someone 20 years younger, we are aware that we will look like an idiot.
13) We will never regret piercing our ears.
14) There are times when chocolate really can solve all your problems.
15) We can make comments about how silly men are in their presence because they aren't listening anyway.
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
There are a few things though that I would like to address. One is I don't know why there is this battle between working and stay at home mother's. I have never understood this and see no reason for it at all. Also, I am not one of those mother's who believes every mother should stay at home, I think as women and mother's we are all unique and every decision is based on a combination of desire and situation. I have friends and family members who love to go to work and some claim to be better mother's because of it!
For me it was a personal decision that was mine and Bob's. I thought that today would be a good day to let you in on a typical day in the life of a pilots wife stay at home home-schooling mother and answer the two questions that annoy me pertaining to my decision of stayin at home and the decision to homeschool. I have other questions that annoy me as a wife of a pilot, but I will leave that for another blog. Okay so #1.what do you do all day? and #2.Are your kids socialized? (what do they mean? when I take them to the park are they growling at the other kids? No, they are wearing their collars and muzzles to keep them from biting anyone! Be real people,another dumb question!). So here we go-
7am get up got showered and ready. Made school lunches and helped Bob find a pair of black pants(although he has 10 pairs in closet he never can seem to find the "one"he needs) for trip. Got kids up and ready for school. Made breakfast.Helped Bob find keys, phone and wallet (I swear if his head wasn't attached..)Get Bob out door on time,find kids socks(we never have two the same) and shoes. Gather t-ball equipment, Jr. Girlscout uniform, and school books for Regan because today we will have school in car and at various locations per fieldtrip. Take Nolan to pre-k program, drop off, go to theatre for play(Treasure Island) with Regan,do some schoolwork in car waiting for play, see play, go to borders to finish school work with Regan while waiting for Nolan to finish gymnastics, pick up Nolan, take Regan to Jr. Girlscouts(as she changes in car), go home for 45 min, go back to Jr. Girlscout meeting, (its my day to car pool), pick up girls take them all home, go back by house(I forgot part of t-ball uniform) go to ball field for t-ball practice,come home@ 630pm, make dinner, get kids bathed, have time to smooch on hubby when he returns home, put kids to bed,read story,prayer,get water.rest.Get more water, help someone to potty.rest.take Nolan back to bed for the third time-check on Regan. Then I get to clean kitchen from dinner, and get ready for bed. Fall into Bed, mumble something incoherrant to Bob. and on some occasions well TMI.... Some days we go to park, library,store,etc. Do not misunderstand me, I am not telling you all this because I regret my decision, I really love my"job". I just thought that the next time anyone meets or doubts that a stay at home mom works, well our job never stops. The next time you meet a homeschooling parent you will also know without a doubt that our children are very socialized!
Now I also want to take this opportunity to say to the working moms - I have so much admiration and respect for you. Not only do you work, but I also know that you do the same things here that I just described! I think as mother's we should support and encourage one another (instead of tearing each other down) for the things we do, or the decisions we make. Whether someone decides to stay at home or work outside the home,there is one thing I am certain about, we all want the best for our children ,we love them and want to provide for them the best care we can-for each one of us it will be different, and it will look different, but we all share this one common goal-To raise productive,self confident, self motivated, moral children in a society that is broken.
Saturday, February 16, 2008
Hubby just called-weather not so good today in St. Marteen! Boo Hoo-although he does look good with a tan! This is what he and Rich are doing to pass the time! But remember he is "working"!This is funny. Watch the people who are blown back into water. Apparently they watch this for hours.
They are all different. There are some just for the "wives" of the pilot's,( bitch ,bitch and more bitching)okay, this is a little harsh, it is tough to be a pilot's wife sometimes, I mean I have my moments,too.Actually I may be visiting this site more than I thought, I mean I like to b---h as much as the next wife.ha ha There is one on starting to become a pilot ( would you like some cheese with that whine?get it?), there is one on the travels and adventures from the pilot himself,(whoo hoo)actually if I was this guys wife I would be really pissed off now.I mean he should get a clue-No matter where Bob goes he always tells me how crappy it is, now I know this is a lie but it makes me feel better that he is not have some grand adventure without me.hey it works for us. Then the last one is on the life as the pilot see's it, impacting his family (this is the most realistic) and the not so glamourous life of a pilot. Coincidently,this last blog writer and I started our website at the same time,have the same blog name, and even wrote a similar article on the work schedule of a pilot. hm,very interesting, Bob are you secretly blogging?
My blog may have the same name as the others but I promise it is with my own flare, my own stories, my own humor that include, but is not limited to Bob's job!I actually can't wait to read these other blogs-I am even going to try and convince Bob to start one unless.......
Friday, February 15, 2008
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Mamaw:Nolan that movie cost me $5.00. You have to be nice to me for the rest of the night.
Nolan:Nah,I'll just pay you the $5 bucks when I get home.
Nolan:Mamaw when is Louie getting married?
Mamaw:I don't know.Don't you want to know when I'm going to get married?
Nolan: No. Your too old and your husbands die.Girls can only get married once,boys can get married twice.
Nolan: Mamaw I love those new red curtains.
Mamaw: thanks Nolan
Nolan:The rest of your house is ugly.
Nolan is also funny at home! this is after Nolan goes Potty
Nolan: Mommy,Butt wipe in' time!!!
Mommy: Nolan when are you going to learn to wipe your own butt?
Nolan: I know how, I just don't wanna wash my hands!
In Car- Nolan:Daddy when God is holdn' the whole world in his hands, who is holdn' God?
Monday, February 11, 2008
So Today I am giving all of us an UNVALENTINE Day Holiday- where we take ourselves out, treat ourselves to a manicure/pedicure,massage, new shoes,whatever. To celebrate our womanhood and the curse that we all live with as women of wanting and craving the passion,romance,flowers,candy, yes we really do want IT ALL-We can not help it,we are created for this, to be treasured,loved, adored- I think this is the best part of being a woman,and no men,,, this is not to let YOU off the hook for Valentine's Day. hint;when we say we don't want anything,we lie,when we say its no big deal,still lying,and for gosh sakes when we say its valentine's day everday with you its all lies, lies, and more lies. Do not fall for this crap, you better come home with cards,candy,flowers,dinner and the whole nine yards-you better surprise us-because anything less, and well lets just say, we can go alot longer than you can-So wake up men, show the women you love that you love them ,they are adored,appreciated,your one "True Love". and I bet everyone will wake up the next day with a smile on their face:)
PS for those of you that are single -sorry, your screwed. there's always next year.and if I am lucky you were one of those girls in highschool who always got the flower gram-so I hate you anyway-
PSS and Bob if you were ever going to comment on my blog,it better be NOW, and it better be mushy,sweet and romantic.
PSSS Bob just got home with new bathing suit,suntan lotion,new serengiti's sunglasses(for his Valentine's weekend), btw he brought me tampons,pads,and avocados.He is in big trouble here. His ship is sinking fast,very fast.poor, poor Bob he won't be smiling for awhile.
Sunday, February 10, 2008
Bob and I found out a few weeks ago that we were pregnant. Yes, it was quite a surprise and unexpected. We did share this new with a few close friends and family , but we chose to not share it with everyone until after the "first"trimester, including our children, who still do not need to know. Well, I went to the doctor on Thursday saw a little heartbeat and thought we were right on track, Unfortunately I started to miscarry on Friday. Called the doctor and he explained there is nothing we could do about it, that there must have been something wrong with the developement etc,etc,. FYI, if you have someone you know that is going through this a few things not to say, -its for the best, you were'nt planning this anyway,better now than later,you can have another one,- although these comments are heartfelt they dont help. Nor should you try to explain why it happened, well you shouldnt have...maybe if you would have... No there is nothing that anyone can do to prevent this, it is no one's fault , you can not cause this,it is designed by God, with his purpose in motion.So just listen. That's it, nothing more.simple.
I am a private person, ask my family! So deciding to share this so openly is a bit out of character for me, a bit scary, however,I chose to share it on my blog because hiding from it felt like I was ashamed. Ashamed that my body did not do what it needed, ashamed that I somehow failed or dissapointed people,when in actuality I have learned, grown, and although with the sadness have found the joy in it. This may sound foreign to some, but I truely can only explain it , because it is so odd that it must be God.So,Let me explain. First on what I have learned,I have learned that I am not in control of my life, God is! This has been so freeing for me to know that I am not only not in control, but I dont have to be!He has a plan for each of us and sometimes that path we go down is rocky,bumpy, & comes with cracks, but during these times ,I am convinced that it is when we are most alive, that we are living. I assume this is the "road less traveled" because the road that is traveled alot is smooth,no bumps, probably pretty straight right? well that road may appeal to some, but not to me,I want to be on a bumpy crazy road that takes me to different places, adventures, yes and alot of heartache, isn't this life. isn't this living? You can not have one without the other. I want to press forward on my bumpy cracky path because it is mine, my choices, my life.I have learned that it only takes one day, one moment to change your life.(this happened when we saw the plus sign on the test and again Friday)but that you have to go with it, sometimes changing your plans, taking a turn when you thought you would go straight,or gettting off at the next stop, but that's okay! I have learned to trust this and find comfort in the peace that only He can give me.That I may feel sadness and pain, but joy comes in the morning! I have learned that people really do care and that love grows when you allow people to be a part of your life and not by shutting them out, I have learned that alot of people LOVE ME. I also have learned that we all have purpose no matter how long we are in this world, whether it is 80 years or 7 weeks we are all signifigant to our creator. We all touch lives. Second, I have grown. I have grown in my faith,that he has sustained me and comforted me in knowing that his will was done.That my circumstances Do Not and Will Not determine my relationship with Christ, he already paid for ALL of my sins and that my circumstances are Not a punishment for being the sinner that I am.This is HUGE - It is also empowering to me. That each event or trial is an opportunity to be a blessing to someone else. It is how we respond to these situations that show who we really are ,our true character.Situations like these shape us, change us, it becomes a part of our legacy, our story. I embrace this.And lastly I have found joy, joy in the overwhelming response of my friends & family to support me, love me. I have found joy that my children were protected from having to understand this, I have found joy in the arms of my wonderful husband,I have found joy in the knowledge that whatever life throws at us we can be assured that because we have chosen to walk with Christ, that we can never lose our spirit, our hope, our purpose! You can look at this in any situation that you may be facing now, or in the future, My sister used to sing this song, it goes -Life is Hard, but God is good! This is so true! We all have crap(can I say crap here?) in our lives, we all have pain, mistakes, dissapointments,This is when I think we should reach out most to people, not hide or try to deal with it on our own, that is a lie.God created us to have relationships with each other, that means through good,bad and ugly.That means to be vulnerable and say I'm a mess ,this is me, like it, accept it, deal with it- here I am! I find Joy in this! Don't You?
I can not tell you what God has planned for my future, nor do I want to know. I want to enjoy each moment, I want live in the 60 seconds of life, where every second counts, I choose to live in the abundance of joy, not the bondage of grief and dissapointment,I choose to live with excitement, knowing that I may not understand but can be rest assured that my path,my bumpy,rocky road, will always be the one that God leads me down so at the end of it I too will hear," Well Done". I hope this was an encouragment to someone that needs to hear it, I really love each and everyone of you, you are all a part of me.(well there may be a few people that I dont know that read this blog and although I hope you find encouragment I dont love you,give me a break I dont even know you ha ha) I believe humor is a gift from God. Blessings, B. Oh yeah
P.S. for my faithful readers who have read my costco condoms blog, you may be a little confused uh condoms-pregnant- well here is a clue 1. You must use them not just buy them 2.there is no "safe" time 3.in the throes of passion do not forget them, 4.it only takes one time. .
Saturday, February 2, 2008
Friday, February 1, 2008
I look at him and see endless opportunities for his future. I love to watch him play at the park and inspect bugs, leaves and something gross smooshed on the ground(get away from that Nolan!) and I think to myself this may be our president one day?!-I wonder what kind of man he will become, what kind of father will he be, husband? But for now I just want him to be five. I want him to continue to climb into my bed every morning and spoon me, give me sticky kisses and long hugs good night.For now I want to celebrate his youth,his innocence,his uniqueness.Today,I will just love him, praise him, encourage him and celebrate his "big" day with him at a place I loathe, but will endure for him. This is the gift of parenting. It is a joy raising this wonderful little boy. Happy 5th Birthday,Nolan! Don't waste a minute of it!